“Do as I say not as I do!!”  I don’t know how many times I heard that as a kid.  Too Many!!  It never “jelled” with me.  I felt my mother should have been an example.  And in a sense she was, an example of what NOT to do.  Because of that, I grew up with the feeling of “Don’t tell me what to do” It is something I have struggled with as an adult too,  which leads me to the topic of discipline.

I lack self-discipline.  I am highly motivated but trying to “Do It All” my way.  I want to write my story of healing so that I can share the lessons I have learned with others.  The lessons were many and rich.  Not unlike the lessons learned by many other people, I just had to come to them in my own way.  Which I now realize is the way we ALL do it.

I participated in some “organization” workshops in my earlier years.  How busy people get everything done.  I learned to be organized, I learned the importance of setting priorities, making lists, and things that would help me stay on track.  However… I didn’t learn how to say no.  I just keep saying YES, Yes, yes…. I want to do it all. 

I recently realized I am a seminar junky!!  Last year when covid hit our planet and we were all in lockdown, things started happening online.  Awesome.  I didn’t have to race from one amazing event to another, planning time for travel, the expense of gas for my vehicle, the worry of making sure I had food prepared so I wouldn’t be grabbing junk food as I zoomed from one thing and the next.  Now I ZOOM online.  I participate in most all of the events that catch my attention and feel right for me!

I often sign up for the free events, then because I want to do it all, can’t keep up with all the sessions.  Oh yes, they offer the “forever access” which I can purchase, and I have and I do.  So now I am busy trying to make sure I download and print the transcripts and save the audios.  Organization being a strong presence in my life, I now need to move those audios for the different and awesome things I am doing, onto jump drives so I can access them from either my pc or my Mac. 

Discipline.  I am grateful for the “Shut Up and Write” events I participate in as it gets my fanny in the chair, my hands on the keyboard.  I had committed to this blog “Monday Musings” then beat myself up for letting it lag for awhile.  Now I am playing catch up to give the appearance of discipline to do what I said I would do.  A weekly blog. I set the boundaries, I set the schedule, I lack discipline but am learning it.  I am the only one who gets to tell me what to do.  Self discipline is being “Pono” with myself as they say in Hawaiian. 

Because I love words, and understand that words have purpose and meaning, here is a meaning of pono, found online, that I resonate with!!

What is the deeper meaning of the word pono?

In life, pono stands for righteousness and balance. In Hawaiian, if a person is living pono, it means that they have struck the right balance in their relationships with other things, places, and people in their lives. It also means that they are living with a continuous conscious decision to do right by themselves, by others, and by the world in general.

The above definition was found at alohashirtshop.com


  1. Carrie Lynne -

    Boy self-discipline is so important yet something I struggle with as well. “Don’t tell me what to do” rings true for me as well. It’s taken time and a lot of healing to realize that stubborn response is not the answer and if you take a step back and a deep breath, you realize that more often than not people are not actually “telling you what to do” but rather enlisting your help and support and it’s time to go with the flow instead of coming from that place of resistance.

    • Jacklyn Garnick -

      Taking a step back and a deep breath is something I try to practice more often than not. Triggers are always a reflection of something inside of me that needs to be worked on. In that place where people are “telling me what to do” stepping back and taking a deep breath also allows me to connect with spirit so I can determine if it is indeed something I need to be doing. I am learning to listen, not just with my ears but with my heart. What are they really saying? Does it come from a place of Fear or Love? In regards to self discipline, I am realizing it is a big part of self-love. I love myself to follow through. Thank you for your input.

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